I finally joined the hipsters and created a Facebook account this week. I swore I wouldn’t do it, but here I am - one of the masses. It’s not that I actually have anything against Facebook or any other social networking sites, it’s just that I really don’t have time for the social part of social networking - I was in college before the craze hit and then spent my subsequent years completely out of the cool-loop. Oh yeah, and having archaic dial-up internet didn’t help. I currently spend hours each day networking, but it’s of the educational nature. I consider all the time I spend communicating with my PLN to be educational networking (as described by Vicki Davis), which therefore justifies the insane amount of time I spend on my laptop. All in the name of my learning and development, right?
Actually, joining Facebook IS in the name of research. I’m going to be teaching a parent workshop at my middle school on “what kids are up to online these days” (working title, real one much more sophisticated) and although I’ve read post after post, done oodles of research, and watched “Growing Up Online”, I didn’t feel that I could honestly teach anyone about it without actually using it myself. (Note: I created a MySpace account several months ago for the same purpose.) Now, I’m not saying that I have to “master” Facebook to be able to talk to parents about it, but I should be familiar enough with it to be able to describe how to set up an account and find people. Most importantly, I want to be able so show them exactly where their kids are (or will be) spending time and what they’re exposed to there. I have no intention of saying anyone shouldn’t use Facebook - exactly the opposite. But it’s just too easy to dismiss things as ‘dangerous’ or a waste of time if you don’t truly understand them. So, down the Facebook trail I trot.
I know I’m a complete geek and it’s actually pretty late in the game to ‘find’ Facebook - is it even cool anymore? From what I’ve read, it’s still the place to be for many people, so it seems to be worthwhile research. When I tweeted that I was finally setting up an account and didn’t know if it would be useful, here’s what my PLN had to say via twitter:
theother66 : @kolson29 - look me up in FB
SarahStewart : @kolson29 I dont use mine, its just another means of having a ‘presence’. Havin said that, a no of x students have contacted me using FB
garageflowers : @kolson29 I just set one up in Nov - don’t use it for anything other than, as @SarahStewart said, a “presence” -some kid pics & contact info
garageflowers : @kolson29 Makes networking easy - “find me on Facebook” - all they need to remember is your name! No email address, web site, etc.
MetaWeb20 : @kolson29: Kate .. I have a facebook account and I never use it .. although I did find some long lost contacts from childhood there.
garageflowers : @kolson29 I found a few friends from undergrad, but nobody from high school. In fact, a search for my HS & grad year only gets 4 results.
MetaWeb20 : @kolson29: The thing with Facebook is that you have to have an account and understand it because many students are there.
Now the cool part was when I went to find friend during my account set-up, Facebook searched my email contacts and brought back MANY members of my PLN whom I’ve been in email contact with. How did we end up emailing? Because we commented on one another’s blogs! So, that was pretty neat - I ended up automatically having PLN people in my friends list. Among the others that were automatically found:
- quite a few professional contacts who I know ONLY professionally - I didn’t add most of them as friends. The fact that you email someone does NOT automatically make them your friend!
- my brother and sister-in-law - they’re the cool-kids. Both in grad school at Duke, and I’m fairly certain being on Facebook is a graduation requirement? Anyway, my sister-in-law is very active on FB (I’m sure it’s a welcome break from her grad nursing program, who can blame her?) and it was neat to get to communicate with her in a new way
- Several high school/college friends
- An ex-colleague/friend from my current life
- A long-lost cousin - she found ME, I’m sure because she found my brother…………
I honestly didn’t take much time to look up anyone else, I thought having 24 friends right away was enough :-) It was AMAZING how quickly people responded to my friend request, maybe they were just sitting there waiting for me to join? When, oh WHEN will Kate join Facebook………..right, I’m sure that was it. Anyway, here’s my reaction to the experience:
***Some probably completely respectable 20-somethings put up completely inappropriate pictures as their profile pic. C’mon, are you thinking? That’s the first line of your profile, anyone can see it - do you not GET that? Even if it will never affect your professional life, don’t you have more pride? I tweeted some rant to that effect and here’s what came back:
jesatiu : @kolson29 that’s a loaded question…but a good one-it reaches so far into human nature though…and drive and desire and media significance
garageflowers : @kolson29 I have to wonder if ppl in “the business world” have to worry about the same consequences as tchrs
taylorteacher : @kolson29 I’ve been out of twitter the last little while, so not sure what you’re talking about. But YES. People are stupid.
***I just don’t find the experience to be very efficient - way too much clicking to go see and the whole wall-to-wall thing seems kind of clumsy. Maybe if I had FB open all the time it would be easier?
***I think I’m just too private to feel comfortable using Facebook for its true intention and sharing pictures there isn’t something I really want to do. My sister-in-law has pictures of me up, though, which is kind of funny! Just think of all her friends who saw me sledding…… I’ll save my thoughts on picture sharing for another post, though. The wall-to-wall commenting is kind of weird for me because there are different groups of people in my friend list, and the comments stay up for anyone to see, so when my friend or family member writes something funny/family-related it’s just OUT there. I know that you can change the privacy settings, but I have to work on which one is allows for communication, but not too much unnecessary sharing. At least on Twitter I KNOW who’s ‘listening’, since I have my updates protected……….and yes I know anyone can copy/paste my tweets (as I did here) but since my twitter network is almost all edtech, there’s nothing I wouldn’t be ok with sharing with the world.
Final conclusion on MY use of Facebook - I’ll check it every so often, but find Twitter, Classroom 2.0, blogging, email, and IM to be much more in tune to what I need for educational networking. If I begin to use Facebook for true social networking with my close friends, family, I will remove all of my PLN contacts. Just kind of a confusing world - where else in your life do these groups cross? At the moment, Twitter is my communication method of choice - I’m in love…….
Conclusion on sharing Facebook info with parents at the PTA workshop: I’ll show parents how to get there, how to set up an account, and get started using it. I’ll also be sharing info on MySpace, as that’s where more of the middle school kids are. One thing I will bring up is the fact that many of my 6th grade students have accounts under false pretenses - not old enough, and lied about age. How do parents want to deal with this? The fact that it’s ok with a particular parent doesn’t negate the fact that it violates the terms of use of the sites. I’ll be sharing many resources/sites on cybersafety and we’ll be watching and discussing parts of “Growing Up Online”. In no way will I be conveying that social networks are something to be scared of - I will be emphasizing parent awareness, monitoring, and open communication with teens and referencing much of Danah Boyd’s work. You can check out my list of some of the resources I’ll be sharing at the workshop here and here (my del.icio.us links tagged parentclass and safety).
Warning - Here’s my personal rant on the subject!
I believe every parent (and TEACHER, but that’s another post) should at least understand what social networks are, even if they aren’t interested in using them for personal use. Not because social networks are something to necessarily be worried about, but we need to understand how our kids work, interact, and think. It’s just simply NOT ok anymore for parents to say, “I hardly even know how to email, ha ha” and have that be just cute and a sign of the times. We need to wake up and figure out where this generation is spending time. Remember those commercials that said something like “It’s 10:00 - Do you know where your children are?” The fact that your child is in the next room does NOT mean you know where he is anymore. Parents are scrambling to get cell phones for kids so they can find them anywhere, but are completely oblivious to where they are online. Why didn’t the entire NATION watch “Growing Up Online”? Why doesn’t every single school have parent education courses? Why aren’t all teachers REQUIRED to learn and discuss how social networking affects learning and interacting with teenagers (students’ personal, not educational use)? Now, I know many places DO have these things, but it needs to be mandatory and across the board, not just something for the more innovative districts to be jumping on.
Stepping off soapbox now………………………thoughts?
RESOURCES FOR FURTHER READING
Some much more educational writings on social networking - just the tip of the iceberg, though:
Social Network Sites: Definition, History, and Scholarship (Danah Boyd and Nicole Ellison)
The FB/SNS discussion continues (Allison Miller)
Educational Networking and Staying out of my Face (Sue Waters)
Who is the MySpace Generation? Why Do We Care? (Leigh Zeitz)
Warning: Blogging and Twittering May be Harmful to Your Health (Vicki Davis)
Growing Up Online (Patrick Woessner)